He is going out with a girl that just turned 16 in January! I keep telling him it's wrong but he says age is just a number and no age difference will come between him and his true love. Well, she's at the legal age For, you know Most states in the US say you must be atleast 18 years old to have sex without the consent of parents. The age varies from state to state, i think you can find a map that shows it on google. As long as they don't have any kind of physical sex with eachother, its perfectly fine.
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I'm 52 and I'm going out with a 15 year old. You know how Bill Clinton got off the hook because he did not have sex with that woman under the constitution I'm not saying it's right, just interested. What i'm trying to say is that if someone is over the age of consent I mean any age you're considered an adult it is fine to date or have a relationship with a minor as long as they do not have sex of any type, such as oral, anal vagi Kissing and cuddling is fine.
Just don't molest the minor. In Holland its 16 I believe, but my point is the "rape" definition. You don't call it rape if someone under the age of consent has sex with someone older? What do you call it then? So a 14 year old having "relations" with a 20 year old isn't called statutory rape? Is it called anything? Can the 20 year old go to jail for this in your country? So you mean there isn't a specific term for it as far as you know but the 20 year old in my example could still go to jail?
I would say no, just because there's a vast difference in life experience, mentality, etc. Hell, I'm only 19 and I'd have serious doubts about dating a year-old. But hey, if they're actually in a relationship for good reasons and he isn't just using her for sex It could work out, stranger things have happened. Reminds me of my brother-in-law's cousin. She just turned 16 and her mother's signing for her to get married to some year-old guy Here in Aus if they have sex then its called statutory rape.
I don't think there is any law that says they can't have a relationship. Stay friends until she's If her parents are ok with it, and your parents and friends already are, then that's everyone that matters. You'll get crap from other people if the age discrepancy is apparent, but from the sound of it, it isn't. Take her up on some of those invitations to dinner, so you meet the parents. Make a good impression. I was dating a 17 year old at 21, everyone throught it was great, no-one outside of the few of us even realised there was an age difference.
Just back away as nicely as you can.
Forget the taboo factor, her daddy's a cop. You could be as gentlemanly as is humanly possible, and he could still ruin your life. Any daddy can claim a false statutory rape, but a cop is going to have a better chance of making it stick. That would give you a criminal record featuring sex with a minor. Furthermore, there's a slim chance you'd wind up on the Sex Offender Registry. Be kind to her, of course - she may be a "very mature" 16, but she's still None of the logic behind this may matter to her.
If this is love, true and deep, waiting a few years is nothing. Consider it a test of the heart. That way, once she's 18, you'll be much more free to do as you please. Also, not advice, just random thoughts - after her parents have met you, what about telling her you'd like to ask her out, but feel a bit odd about the age difference, ask her what she thinks. See what she says. Once she knows your interested, assuming she wants it to happen, then she might be your best ally in presenting it to her parents. Perhaps "dad, I'd like to date this friend of mine" might work better than "Mr XYZ, I'd like to date your underage daughter".
I don't know, just throwing something out. I see no problem with it, particularly if she's mature for her age But I think it depends though on the state though in terms of a sexual relationship do your homework if you become romantically involved posted by DudeAsInCool at Also, waiting until she's in collage might be a good idea - it's not long, and a lot of highschool taboo doesn't apply anymore. Reading Jilder's comment - yeah - make sure you're comfortable with the parents as well as they you.
Think "what could happen if I break her heart".
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Socially, you're much better off waiting until she's started college. Right now you'd be a twenty one year old guy dating a girl in high school -- doesn't matter how you dress that up, it still comes out looking really really bad. It's a shame that arbitrary laws criminalize what could be otherwise fulfilling relations between two people.
C'est la vie in your particular jurisdiction. As others have said, you could pursue a friendship and bide your time before getting romantically involved, but be prepared for some tests of character. Well age of consent is a very arbitrary concept. Why are teens in Arizona assumed to be less mature than teens in Ohio? It doesn't make any sense. Besides, social conventions and practices are not necessarily tied to the legal age of consent. Relationships with such age differences happen all the time, it depends on the individuals.
But, you're thinking of asking permission of the parents, and you're thinking of avoiding sex - that's two complications you don't need at If she already has such a crush on you, how are you going to deal with dating without getting sexual? What if she wants to? You're going to be leading her on that way. You can't date her and then suddenly turn all "oh no no you're only 16" when sex comes up, and oh it will come up, don't delude yourself. If you're going to treat her like a child then do it from the start and just don't start anything.
A relationship has to be on equal terms at any age. Legally, it's shaky enough that I'd stay away from the situation. Socially--when I was in high school, there were year-olds dating men ten years their senior legally over the age of consent in that state. I've seen the same thing now and then since, especially when I've been in work environments with a lot of younger folk.
In general, other teenagers think it's cool that you're so openminded, that she could impress an older guy, and are cool with the idea in general. Most adults think it's creepy, and no amount of justification or rationalization can change their minds, even if upon meeting the sixteen-year-old the adult in question would guess her to be much older.
Whether it's "acceptable" depends on your community, but for dating a teenager not to hurt you at all socially, you'd have to hang out in either a very open-minded social group, or a very young one. Dude, her dad is a cop. Seriously, I would not touch this with the proverbial ten-foot pole.
Right over there, other side of the tall grass, in front of the mall! I later found out about her age and decided that I shouldn't do anything about it. Quite apart from the age thing, I'd be wary of a relationship with someone who worked for a family member too. Maybe you don't plan on having sex. There's a chance you actually won't do that.
You know who cares? Not your neighbors in twenty years when they find out they live next to a sex offender. You can't prove you didn't have sex. Maybe she can't prove you did, but recent high-profile cases indicate she probably won't have to. IMHO, that and the sex offender registry for "crimes" like this is a complete bullshit way of operating a justice system -- but, such is the system as it stands.
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Know that going in. If you lived in another state, where the age was 16, my advice might be different. But in today's legal climate, the advice to stay far away could not be made strongly enough. I'll be honest I came here wanting people to tell me it was okay, I wasn't totally crazy to ask this chick out, because even though I had made up my mind, it was still bugging the hell out of me which should have been all I needed to know it was wrong.
And I got that, some of you are saying do it, but even with the support it still just doesn't seem right for some reason. I like to think of myself as having a more logical thought process then an average person so this whole thing has been driving me bonkers trying to figure out. You all make very good, and valid points, but I think pleeker and twistofrhyme bring it home, I know I could keep from bringing sex up, but if she wanted it I don't know if I could stop it, and therein is the biggest rub I guess.
My biggest concern is and should be her, I don't want to hurt her or make her fear relationships at such an important time in her life for relationships. As such I think I should just steer clear. I think you've made the right choice. It's a teenage girl thing. They don't want to be kids anymore, they want to be seen as mature by their friends and family. She probably looks like an adult, and acts like an adult, but upstairs, she's still a kid.
And her dad's a cop. Like someone said, there's a reason they're called Jailbait. Echoing what others have said, it doesn't matter how "mature" she is, a 16 year old is in a totally different place, mentally and physically than a 21 year old. To be frank, you might want to consider where you are psychologically that are you are even interested in this girl. Arizona sex offenders are routinely placed on lifetime probation, and have a lot of restrictions and invasions in their lives as long as they remain on it. You should be wary of any year-old girl lavishing you with attention.
It's not just possible, but probable, that it's not really you she likes, but the simple fact that a year-old man is paying even the smallest bit of attention to her. Teenagers get very bored very easily. These relationships rarely work in the long run. There are exceptions, of course, but in my opinion, even if you're totally in love with her, this is a very, very bad idea. I feel like I had plenty of self-confidence and positive sexual awareness at that age, but I remember being attracted to other people in their mid-teens rather than older people.
I can't begin to read her mind any more than the rest of the people in this thread can , but just from what you're saying, it sounds like she's not even necessarily expressing sexual interest in you. Beyond your own attraction to her, you're also being forced to think of this in sexual or potentially-sexual terms by a few other factors the laws, the fact that her dad's a cop. I think the best thing you could do is stay her friend and give her your support and advice as she navigates the landscape of relationships and sex in college.
I think it's really sad that some people in this thread are saying you can't be her platonic friend and should drop all interaction with her.tmodbioblanat.tk
Should a 21 year old be dating a 16 year old?
But I do think you need to consider your relationship carefully and communicate with her VERY clearly from now on. I'm in agreement with Brittanie, but for slightly different reasons. I think men have an easy time picking up younger women. Younger women, in my experience, want to learn everything that a more mature man can teach them. In the teens, a single year makes a big difference in terms of maturity.
You've gone through the experiences of living on your own, finding work, and supporting yourself financially and emotionally. A year-old still has Mommy and Daddy's support to fall back on if anything should go wrong.
You're well beyond that point-- do you want to have to sneak your girlfriend out of her parent's house to stay out late? Want to take her to get drunk with your friends? You're at different stages of life; its not to say that you can't love her or share an emotional bond, but I think it will be a fragile bond due to the difference in maturity and the barriers created by the law and social norms. She's probably enamored with you because you have so much more experience than her, which I entirely understand. But at some point, you'll want someone who understands your experiences and can teach you a thing or two.
Its easy for older guys to pick up younger women-- but I'm not sure if they satisfy our needs. I mean it - do not EVER let yourself be in any situation where the two of you are alone - without witnesses - in a social setting. Baleroc Follow 1 follower 6 badges Send a private message to Baleroc.
Follow 14 Original post by JS I've began messaging and after the usual small talk and flirtatious banter she told me she was actually 16 and not 19 as her profile had said.
Follow 15 Mike Follow 1 follower 1 badge Send a private message to Mike Follow 16 Original post by Baleroc This is a complicated case, so asking it on TSR isn't the best idea, since you can lead yourself into trouble. Firstly, to address the age gap: More specifically, she is underage to consent. You have to be 18 before you are able to legally consent to anything that is why you cannot sign contracts until then, etc. Casual conversations, meet-ups that is, meeting at a Coffee shop, or restaurant in a public place , and discussions is fine - provided they aren't overly sexual , and, you keep your distance e.
My advice to you is this: At this time, you can do whatever you want, but while she is 16, you have to be particularly careful about what you say, and do, with this person. Just because other people are doing it, does not mean you should too. They could be breaking the law. In summary, you can continue speaking to her - which is fine. However, sending any explicit images, or messages, may not be 'lawful', since she is under age.
I would recommend for you to wait until she is 18, before progressing with this relationship.
Lastly, here's some advice for you take: People on TSR including myself can only 'guide' you, but we do not know exactly what is best in these situations. Follow 17 I'm 21, and I would never date a 16year old. But then again, I'm a girl though so it might be different. Follow 18 Original post by the bear tbh even if she says she is 16 she could be younger Original post by cherryred90s I'm 21, and I would never date a 16year old.
Follow 19 When you were 16, how old was your oldest boyfriend or sexual partner? Although i never went there myself i knew of 14 year old girls who having sex with men in their twenties the most extreme was probably a girl who screwed her sisters 27 year old boyfriend when she was Rhys Follow 0 followers 0 badges Send a private message to Rhys Follow 20 I was 16 and went out with a 23 year old for 8 months - it was a complete disaster and I wish I'd never met him; be careful.
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